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Post by Tudderz on Jan 8, 2009 11:38:32 GMT 1
We've all been there, you for no apparant reason think of a person from yesteryear, and think 'wonder where they are/what they're up to etc? Do you look them up on facebook for example or search for them, remember why you lost touch in the first place, or just remember happy memories...or 'ex's' were they a good sh*g or no?? ;D We've all been there I suppose..... Not just about 'ex's' btw, workmates or school friends either, whoever you want in fact..... 40 an' can think of a few thru the years.....
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Post by snoozyboozy on Jan 8, 2009 12:07:12 GMT 1
what's your surname?? Can't find ya!
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Post by WaveyDavey on Jan 8, 2009 12:12:54 GMT 1
Had a couple of instances of this over Chrimbo Tudderz... Saw a lad at Live/Wire at the Boardwalk last month who I haven't seen since the week we left school (28 years ago!!!) - his family emmigrated to South Africa in 1980 and (due to no tinterweb, women, marriages, kids, divorces etc) we eventually lost touch. Me and Ghengis were top mates up to that point so imagine how great that was. Arranged for him to come out with us for a drink (or 10) one night over christmas too for Kemmys birthday.. it was like 28 years had never gone past. THEN went out for Mrs Wave's work's do and one of the women she works with is married to a lad I've not seen since the day we left school, so ended up out all night drinking with him. THEN started up on Faceache.com and found yet another lad I've not seen or spoke to since leaving school.. yet another great mate at school who I'd drifted apart from - as you do - turns out he doesn't live that far away either. Facebook can be great for stuff like that.. also got in touch with my cousin who I can't have seen for at least 10 years!
Also got a message on FriendsReunited not long back from a lad I used to go to art school with in the 1800's and he's now art director on stuff like the Die Hard movies and Batman..! amazing where people end up
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Post by snoozyboozy on Jan 9, 2009 7:54:03 GMT 1
wow wavey!!! WOW!!!!!! Social network sites really come into play when ya hear stories like that! Got one of those myself too. Andy, we both lived in the same area when we were growing up. We went to the same infant school, junior school, secondary school. Then we both went to the same college. We both left after 6 months to work locally. We both then got jobs in offices in london, so we used to commute together, even met up in our lunch hours. We used to get off the train back in ashford and go out for a drink on friday nights etc. 32, and counting, years of friendship!!! Then it all started getting a bit lax to say the least. Marriages, kids, moves etc. He's on facebook and we're jabbering away like we used to and i'm well happy Faceache.com fan? DEFINATELY!!! ;d
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Post by Tudderz on Jan 9, 2009 16:43:44 GMT 1
Very recent convert to Facebook, can be a laff...or crap...depends whose on I suppose Have to say real friends never go away, and they would be always there for you, no matter what, and the ones who I call 'mates' are ALL still around! Which is just the way it should be 40 an' knowing the diference between Fairweather and 'Mates'
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Post by Rock'n'Roll Dame on Jan 9, 2009 23:27:02 GMT 1
Was 'friended' over the Xmas break by someone from school who I havent seen since the day we left (despite living in the same town ever since) and have exchanged a couple of messages with him; turns out he was diagnosed with spinal cancer in '04 at 33 years old and the outlook was paralysis from the neck down but with a great surgeon he is now back on his feet - albeit in his own words bionic!! Has a young daughter and has no help from the state whatsoever (heaven knows how he copes as he cant work but is determined to get back to it); im going to find time to go and have a cuppa with him and one of the morals in this is surely that life really is precious and we should take time to keep in touch with people who are important to you - another success for facebook too!!
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Post by RiCko23 on Jan 10, 2009 1:02:01 GMT 1
I look back from when i left school and 90% of my friends now are all new. Most people from your younger days piss off and do other things etc and you do meet them in strange places as life goes by etc but az tudz says, theres always a few good mates that keep in touch anyway Check this out...ive actually only been hanging around with bennetts for less than 3 years and tiddlytuddly about a year but it seems like ive known them for bloody decades
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Post by WaveyDavey on Jan 10, 2009 1:07:47 GMT 1
I agree true mates do last forever.. but sometimes situations change and you drift apart. Ghengis moved to South Africa in 1982.. Waaaaay before internet, mobile phones blah blah blah. A phone call to SA cost a lot back then. When we went out over Christmas it was like he'd been away a week. My real tip top mates are the ones I have now but its still nice to say 'ay oop - how you doing?' to folks you've not seen in years
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Post by Live/Wire Admin on Jan 10, 2009 19:30:58 GMT 1
one of the morals in this is surely that life really is precious and we should take time to keep in touch with people who are important to you - another success for facebook too!! Facebook sucks. The moral is we should have the time and kindness to do this sort of thing anyway without having to rely on stupid social netwoking site. Its not a sucsess for facebook.. Its a sucsess for you that you got talking to an old friend that means something.. Facebook is just how you accomplished that.. could just have easily been by chance some other way. Or not.. what about other people who have a life story to tell that you went to school with.,that mean something.who you remain blissfully ignorant about these days cos they aint on Facebook.. DonĀ“t let Facebook, MySpace, Bebo, where are they now.friends reunited etc..or even this forum, substitute for real Life. We all sit glued to our computers thinking that we are "socializing" ...Its fukin sad.
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Post by RiCko23 on Jan 10, 2009 20:52:08 GMT 1
You can have a laugh with some of these sites....i do enjoy posting on here and my forum etc....some funny stuff...but i only do it at certain times and for a little while...
There's these sados that sit on facebook nearly all day trying to chat to ppl and yes its very poor. They need to get out there.....burn off some calories for a start and get a friggin job....i also am not a fan of facebook and only use it about 3 times a week briefly....i could live without it. People are becoming obsessed with it
Seemz tudderz has started something off here
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Post by snoozyboozy on Jan 11, 2009 13:47:42 GMT 1
lol.. I'm obsessed with facebook ;d ;d hahaha
I love it and ner ner hehehe
Although occasionally gasbagging, i play games mostly.. ;d
Seriously for a second.. I honestly believe that if it wasn't for social networking sites and our gem of a forum, we wouldn't have all become friends and that doesn't bear thinking about!!!
Don't rely on these sites to maintain a friendship, but it's a lovely way to keep in touch between phonecalls and visits.
That post of yours was fairly heavy Jon.. You alwight honey? Don't worry too much.. It's thanks to the interwebby that us girlies get to eye you up between gigs hehehe.. Never enough jon photos ;d xxx
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Post by Tudderz on Jan 11, 2009 18:21:04 GMT 1
Me starting something off? Thru this site I've met some great like minded(musically anyway!) people, and i echo Ricko's comments it does seem we've known each other(and Mr Socialite Bennetts ) for yonks... When you have common ground the world can be your oyster it seems 40 an' rambling along today.... ;D
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Post by WaveyDavey on Jan 11, 2009 21:52:57 GMT 1
I work on my own so having sites like this one, especially, are good fun to look in during quiet moments.. feel like I've 'met' some good people both 'virtually' and 'actually'. I don't rely on it for socialising.. I've got shitloads of mates anyway.. but chinwagging with people with similar tastes isn't too sad is it? Maybe it is.. STILL.. eh? Facebook reintroduced me to a few people I've not spoken to in a while which was nice, but only in a 'School Reunion' type way. Any road up.. keep smiling people.
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Post by classicrockmaiden on Jan 12, 2009 16:04:43 GMT 1
Facebook etc they are great for getting in contact with people that you have lost touch with from the past. Then also to keep in touch with them..... It would be impossible to keep in contact with everyone from your past, you would spend all day and all night on the phone trying to do that etc etc ......Ours lives are so busy and continually changing..... Its just a bit of fun and shouldn't be taken too seriously. I have enjoyed using it and having a few good chats with people that I wouldn't otherwise have been able to talk to. I don't tend to play the games and do all the 'funny' things on it as I am quite lazy with stuff like that..... I agree that is could be easy to bcome addicted to it and also to collect so many friends that even on facebook you can't keep up with them all.......
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Post by Marf on Jan 12, 2009 18:28:31 GMT 1
We all sit glued to our computers thinking that we are "socializing" ...Its fukin sad. Yep. Couldnt agree more.. facebook sucks for talking, its not real communication. What happened to just talkin to people? I use it to share photos of my travels, which is why i joined, & when im outta phone credit. Those are the only useful thing about it. But then there are those paranoids who ACTUALLY take it seriously, & use it for stalking... how pathetic, & what a pity when they get it wrong.
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